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Hunni i can relate to some of what you are saying xxx i am forever feeling like the "poor relation".... my brother has done so well for himself, i'm very very proud of him and very happy for him ..... he has a wonderful nice big house, lots of nice things in it, a wonderful wife, 2 perfect kids, our dad looks up to him as do the rest of the family ... and then there's little old me..... divorced so now single parent with a mortgage (a house falling down and needing heating and decorating!) and working mon-fri.... At the end of the day though i know my family love and support me and are proud of me ....and i'm sure your family is proud of you and want you to be ultimately happy above everything else - that doesn't mean seeing you slaving over a job you hate... picture this - you could have a wonderful house ...but to have it you may have to work like a dog in a job you hate? you would be miserable, tired and fed up and not appreciate the nice house anyway. Appreciate your home, whether its a mansion or a room...its yours... your space. Put pictures you want around you, a few pretty pebbles in a bowl (Asda - cheap as chips but looks great)... a few candles, maybe some fairy lights around the end of your bed.... and make it where you want to be xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx hugs to you hunni xxxxxxxx

hi...You know from your blog it seems tome that you have a lot of good things going for you..you are smart thats for sure. I agree that this might be because of some emotional unmet needs. you have to learn to see things in a different way, sometyhing like in a positive way. Just look at the bright side of things and see the world as a glass half full.

Also, it seems to me that somehow you are comparing yourself to others. I dont think that its about being envious of what others can afford, but rather of how others are successful and you are not, but the thing is you have what it takes to find fullfillment in this world. But it really is hard work, it really needs positive thinking...take care...relax and dont judge yourself harshly and dont compare yourself with others...take care

Easier for a Camel to pass through the eye of a needle than a rich woman to enter the kingdom of heaven, or words to that effect, look in the mirror, there you will find all the beauty you desire.

Hi BB! Sorry it's taken me so long to get round to this comment.

There are some wise words from your other friends about not comparing yourself to others, but it is not easy to ignore when others around you are doing stuff you'd like to do or have things you want.

The most interesting comment for me was where you said "Because I can't feel grown up enough to do a responsible job?" Now that is key. The only thing that's going to drive you to more responsible, better paid and probably more demanding jobs is your ambition, and to some extent, that will be fuelled by your desire to do well in comparison to others.

So you see it's a balancing act. How much do you hate your apparent low pay and lack of 'stuff'? Enough to make you take on a bigger challenge at work? I agree with Greenart above. I think you are smart, so you can do it if you decide to change gear.

On the other hand, 'stuff' isn't all it's crcked up to be. Good friends and family are FAR more important, and they'll be there even if you're as poor as a church mouse.

register with www.housingoptions.co.uk. Ever heard of New Build Homebuy? As a charity worker you'd qualify for even more homes!

Have you tried earning money from your blog?

could be a good way to earn some extra pocket money... or even more.

Look in to placing some ads etc.