I tried to stay away from him. But I work in the same office, and I like him. I was in need of sex, so I gave him the option of a sex only relationship. He agreed (he can't say no to an offer of sex). So then I was in control. I invited him to my place when I wanted sex and we had no other contact except at work. This was a very strange situation. We really like each other, but just don't seem to be able to understand each other. So now we've decided to get some counselling. He must really like me because he wants to change so that he doesn't loose me completely!! We went for the initial assessment on Thursday, which was good. It's great to talk about stuff with another person and see it from a new perspective. So counselling should help us decide what's the best thing to do. Can we work on our relationship and stay together? or will it never work out and so we will have to end it totally and each look for another person. It's a bit scary. Logically I don't see how we can stay together, but emotionally I'm afraid to be without him.